DEAR FRIENDS   (A copy of this letter was emailed to me by my brother, Tom.  I think he was quite proud of it - I can tell by the writing style he was the one who authored it.  And it does read beautifully.  There's just one problem. It is utter nonsense.  Tom, molesting your 13 year old brother is a criminal act as is incest perpetrated by our father.  There are so many tragedies within this incest story.  Tom is now in Africa, presumably for the rest of his life, on what I consider to be self-imposed exile.  Many people in Lancaster knew and remember Tom.  He physically printed LIP for several years.  He also had "elective" brain surgery some years ago - the long term effects of sexual violations on girls and boys are incomprehensible and tragic.  I am told that this letter was read aloud in Quaker Meeting.)   September 19, 2003   Dear Friends,   We are the children of Charles and Millicent Holzinger. All of us grew up in the nurture of Lancaster Monthly Meeting.   In love and sadness we wish to speak briefly of the illness of our youngest sister, Rebecca Holzinger.  Long-standing members of Meeting will remember her.   For nearly three years Becky has been struggling with frustrations and fantasies, many of which concern persons and situations of the early 1970's.  She has become confused, and she no longer distinguishes between past events and her imagination of them.  She believes that members of her family committed a variety of crimes during those years.  Communication with friends and family has broken down, and our previously vivacious sister now faces the world with suspicion and hostility.  She has refused many offers of help and therapy.   We know that in the past week many of you received a disturbing flyer from Becky.  This flyer, filled with accusations and innuendos, has hurt and bewildered us, especially our mother and father.  And we are sorry that our family's distress has spilled over into the life of the Meeting.   But Becky remains a member of our family and our beloved sister.  "Every attack is a cry for help."  Becky has been crying for help.  It saddens us that we have been unable to reach her.   We grew up as Friends.  We know that you embrace our family in your concern.  May we continue to hold Becky in the light, to aid her to return to her community, family, and inner serenity.   Emily Holzinger Hausman Tom Holzinger Anne Holzinger Steve Holzinger