As word got out that I would be publishing this special edition of LIP, I received an e-mail from a trusted friend who was one of the volunteers instrumental in having the Lancaster Independent Press published for years.
It said in part, "Your last LIP special was a follow up to a significant story LIP covered in the past (thanks to your excellent reporting). The LIP staff participated in publishing those stories so it wasnt too much of an issue for anyone when you wanted to do a follow up. This new story is something that none of the LIP gang ever published in the past."
"MR, Sonora and Clark have all told me that they dont want LIP used for this story. I think you should respect their wishes. We all live in this town and to some extent still have to answer for what is done by LIP. Good folks gave a lot of time and energy to LIP and their wishes about the paper today should be respected."
To which I replied, "This is not a story about my family. This is a story about incest which involves my family. You mentioned the last LIP as a "significant story." Incest is not significant. Sexual abuse victims fill our jails, staff the porn industry, walk the streets, are a high percentage of those in drug and alcohol rehab and many go on to abuse others. There is a tremendous cost to society and the victims."
"But, yes, it is a dirty little secret. No one wants to talk about it. It makes us uncomfortable. It makes us squirm. Thats the way its allowed to continue. Doctors, lawyers, truck drivers, mechanics and accountants do it. And it continues until someone says, Im not going to keep the secret anymore. This has to stop. This cannot go on to a second and third generation."
"However, I showed your e-mail to my son, who has been my rock and my common sense through three years of hell. He shrugged his shoulders and said, Change the name, Mom. DONE. Now all the good gang at LIP can go back to their coffee and donuts or beer and pretzels and not have to worry about answering to anyone."
So, I have changed the name. Oops! The acronym stayed the same. If anyone wants to give me any lip, you know how to reach me.